July 18, 2023
I commented on a long-time friend’s Facebook page……...“Core Wounds – Time to make a change,” to her post; her reply was, “Working on it”. This was a new term for me, and I hope she googled it to know what I meant.
When people repost someone else’s post, it can open a can of worms for interpretation. The original interpretation, how the re-poster interpreted it, and how everyone else interprets it.
“Core Wounds” are emotional and psychological wounds that are internalized and developed during childhood and can manifest in deep-seated feelings of unworthiness, low self-esteem, trust issues, and difficulties forming healthy relationships.
What causes “Core Wounds”? It often stems from neglect, abandonment, or lack of emotional support.
More or less, “Core Wounds” can be caused by a sense of:
- No being enough
- Not being loveable
- Feeling stupid
- Being helpless/powerless
- Being incapable
- Not measuring up
- Being insignificant
Why is it important to explore what causes “Core Wounds” ….
In addition to various other issues, it can cause unhealthy ways of managing our behaviors, including:
- Stress
- Anxiety
- Panic
- Depression
- Emotional eating
- Eating disorders
- Self-harm
- Relationships/attachments
- Alcoholism and other addictions
The term…. “Core Beliefs” – are our most deeply held thoughts and assumptions about ourselves, the world, and others.
They are embedded in our thinking and shape our reality and what we believe to be true. They can be positive, negative, or neutral.
The worst of all “negative beliefs” – is what we feel about ourselves. You need to look for the theme of frustration and the self-negative words we think.
Overcoming negative self-talk can be challenging.
Here are a few steps to help you work through it:
- Self-awareness – Recognize your self-talk, acknowledge it is there, and identify where it may have been rooted.
- Practice self-compassion – Be kind and patient with yourself as you navigate through the process. Treat yourself like you were a friend going through a similar experience.
- Challenge negative beliefs – Seek alternative perspectives. Replace negative self-talk with POSITIVE affirmations.
- Process and release your emotions – Write in a journal, talk to a trusted friend, and find and engage in creative outlets like art or music.
- Engage in self-care – Prioritize activities that bring peace, joy, and relaxation. Pursue hobbies that nurture your well-being. Exercise, meditate, and find the time to spend in nature. I can help you with certainly help you find your passions in this area.
- Cultivate healthy relationships – Surround yourself with supportive and understanding people who can encourage and lift you. If you find others drifting away, they may not see the relationship as healthy. Healthy relationships can provide a sense of belonging, love, and validation.
- Seek support – Consider seeking out a professional. A therapist, counselor, or psychologist specializing in trauma (if that is the case) and healing. They can provide a SAFE space to explore and heal core woods.
Overcoming “Core Wounds” and “Negative Talk and Beliefs” are unique journeys for everyone.
If you are struggling and unable to break free, please contact a mental health PROFESSIONAL to help you on your healing journey.
Until next week, be KIND to yourself, PRACTICE self-care and self-awareness with AGE-GILITY, and Trust Your Truth!
Bye for now……